Interpretation Learning - Sep 2018 (3)

NO	ENGLISH	CHINESE
1	Religiosity	笃dǔ信(忠实地信仰)
2	Compromise	妥协
3	Chinese born Korean	中国出生的韩国人
4	Gossip	说是非
5	Fracture	骨折/断裂
6	Posting (Pastor)	派师

Every Man's Marriage: An Every Man's Guide to Winning the Heart of a Woman

Part I: When Love Grows Cold

- Instead of asking, “How holy can I be?” we prefer to ask, “How far can I go and still be called a Christian?” And how far we go depends upon the benchmarks set by our peers rather than by God.

- Proverbs 4

23 Above all else, guard your heart,

    for everything you do flows from it.

24 Keep your mouth free of perversity;

    keep corrupt talk far from your lips.

25 Let your eyes look straight ahead;

    fix your gaze directly before you.

26 Give careful thought to the paths for your feet

and be steadfast in all your ways.

你的眼目要向前正看

你的眼睛当向前直观

- Job 31

31 “I made a covenant with my eyes

    not to look lustfully at a young woman.

我與眼睛立約，怎能戀戀瞻望處女呢？

- Paul allowed his relationship with his brothers to take precedence over his position in his dealings with him.

Part II: Starting to Breathe Again

Page 88-90

- The sacrifice of male submission will always set a godly example, of course, but its primary purpose must be to release our wives to live fully and blossom to their full potential.

- Exodus 21:2,5-6

Imagine the scene. A broken Jew awakes one morning with no options. Mired hopelessly in poverty, owning nothing but an empty stomach, he stands starkly upon the auction block of slavery. Shoulders slumped, his pride long since stripped away, his ashen face conveys only a searing shame, gaunt eyes staring aimlessly into the distance.

Suddenly, a man with gentle eyes appears before him, a man he’s never known. Somehow this man sees a shred of value in him. Did I see a trace of love in this man’s eyes? the slave wonders. It couldn’t be, but his hope rises as his master pays the price to bring him home. His master does love him. Clothing the man well and feeding him richly, the master speaks gently to him and calls him “brother”. Six years quickly tick by, and within the slave’s heart grows a deep love for his master. He longs to repay his master for his mercy and grace.

When the day of the slave’s leave-taking finally arrives, his master, with moist eyes, offers gifts for the freed man to take on his way. The man declines but offer his own gift in return: his once broken life now restored by the master. Setting his lobe to the post, he joyously receives the mark, submitting his rights and future for the honor or serving and pleasing his master for as long as he lives.

We recognize this picture. It’s our life in Christ. Once we were slaves on the auction block of sin. We stood broken by every evil and foolish thing we’d ever done. Yet our pure Master inexplicably saw value in us, paying for our freedom with His blood that we might serve Him. Experiencing His great love, we returned His love by working in His Kingdom, happily marked by the Holy Spirit (see Ephesians 1:13).

But while I may not literally be her bondservant, my love for her must mirror a bondservant’s love for his master, and my marital leadership must be as sacrificial and life-giving as his. After all, husbands are to love their wives as Christ loved the church, and the Lord’s love for His bride has always been sacrificial and live-giving.

Part III: Manifesting Your Bondservant Heart

Page 109

- Acting from a servant heart means blessing your wife and giving her chance to blossom fully.

Page 114

- I quit negotiating with her over time. In the old days, whenever she would ask me to do something, I would negotiate to perform the task at some other time, or some other day, or during some other week. Now though, I dropped what I was doing and just did the chore immediately. I became like a computer with a return key: All Sandy had to do was punch in her request and I was on it. This seemed like a small thing, but in her mind it was huge. To Sandy, my action was a visible difference in commitment and acknowledgement.

Page 116

- With our four kids, Brenda and I don’t get much time together during normal waking hours. Yet I’ve learned over the years that she needs time just to sit and talk with me. She draws interpersonal intimacy from sharing conversation. Trouble is, I am a morning person, and I am practically on life support when 10pm rolls around. If I lie down on the bed, I am fast asleep for the next eight hours.

Yet again, I have had to remind myself that my time is not my own. If Brenda needs to stay up and talk, I have to do everything I can to engage her – and not fall asleep. So I’ve made a rule for myself that when I retire on the master bedroom at night, I can’t lie down on the bed immediately. Instead, I sit down in what I call my “talking chair”. I can stay away and talk with Brenda if that’s what she needs. I have learned to spell love T-I-M-E. It’s a small act of oneness that honors her vital need as I would honor one of my own.

Page 125-126

Imagine your wife’s freedom to serve God before marriage. When God touched her heart to do anything, she simply did it. When God asked her to give money for a missionary in need, she obeyed. She honored the Spirit’s convictions without any interference. She could rest when needed to and pray when she desired. Now everything must pass through you right?

But she expected even more freedom after marriage. Did she get it? Have you made room and shouldered burdens so that she can really blossom?

Page 130

Preparing for bed, I sat down in my chair and said, “Brenda, you’ve got to tell me something. I went to Jack’s though I knew it really wasn’t necessary. I did it just for you, and for you alone, simply because it seemed important to you. Does that mean anything to you?”

I expected a simple, understated response. I was amazed by her animation as she exclaimed, “Oh, yes, it meant everything! I have been on this push to be neighborly. I don’t feel we do enough that way, and as Christians, we should do a better job. I thought you were doing something important along those lines, and it meant the world to me.”

We must make room for what God places in her heart and respect her gifts, although those gifts may be tough to recognize. Yet our effort to make room for her gifts frees her essence to find its place in the marriage.

Page 141

Your wife did forsake her individual freedom in clinging to you, believing you would provide love and strength. Your wife is still God’s little ewe lamb, regardless of the pain and sin she’s been through and the character wounds she carries. Don’t forget: God has entrusted her to you. Will you resent her, or help restore her? Does your heart warm to the task of restoration? Is there any nobler act than pouring out your mercy on your precious one?

Part IV: Igniting Your Bondservant Mind

Page 183-184

Jesus taught us submission by laying down His life for the sake of our relationship with Him, even though we were sinners. That being said, we husbands must keep the proper emphasis on the word leader as well. Yes, our responsibility as husbands is to command the ship along the course we’ve set as a couple, and though we must often serve by submitting our rights for the sake of oneness, we must never forget our duty to lead the ship safely to harbor.

We must study our wives carefully so we don’t confuse their essence with their emotions as we lead. From the beginning, Brenda dreamed of being a stay-at-home mum when the children arrived. This dream meant two things. First, we had to locate in an area that would give me the best chance to earn enough money to make that possible. Second, I would have to like my work.

Those early years were difficult because of her father’s death and my trampling. As our married life unraveled, Brenda pushed to return to her hometown of Moline. She said I could get a job at one of the large production plants there, and then we could be near her family. She could get her old job back, and we could return to the church she grew up in. To her, everything would be better immediately if we would only move back to Illinois.

While she was probably right in the short term, I couldn’t see a Moline move working in the long term. I enjoyed my work far better than the suggestions she offered about opportunities in Moline, and I couldn’t move my business to that area because of competitive situations. I knew keeping this business was my best hope for supporting her dream of being a stay-at-home mum.

Yet Brenda remained adamant, so I had to study her closely. Was she expressing her deep emotions, or was something deeper transpiring? In her heart of hearts, she wanted to build new life with her husband, distinct and separate from her extended family. She could do that best in Des Moines. She had dreamed of being a stay-at-home mum since she was a little girl. She didn’t have to return to Moline to have that lifestyle. We could eventually find a good church with lots of young friends, and when we did that in Des Moines, we began forming friendships as cochairs of the Young Couples Activities Committee.

There was nothing in her essence that wouldn’t be met in Des Moines. Her desire to move home was based on pure emotion. As leader, I had to find room for her essence, but in doing so, I knew I couldn’t allow her emotions to determine the outcome. I told her I thought we should stay put.

Page 185

Wives don’t expect or need to get their way in order to feel one with us. They only need to feel honored as fellow heirs and to genuinely sense that their thoughts and gifts have been put into play with ours. Deena said, “Gary always considers my viewpoint and really listens. He makes it a safe place for me to express my opinions, right or wrong. We will talk about the issues, and ultimately he will make the decision. But I always know he has listened, and I’ve truly been heard.”

Page 186-187

Romance

It’s knowing what sparks her romantic motors.

When we are romancing our wives, we have to do what they think is fund and what they think is romantic. That shows we know them and care for them.

Woman loves it when you prove you know them, spring little surprises on them, and somehow show you’re sacrificing to do things she loves. That’s romance.

Page 190

Sure, picking up the slack for Brenda on weekend mornings was a good start, but I knew I had to do more than that. I had to become her equal as a caregiver. She had to know I was able to slip equally into her role at moment’s notice, or she’d feel uncomfortable depending on me. If she were sick, I wanted her to lie restfully in bed and get better without worrying that her world was collapsing around her.

Page 192-193

The Story of Diapers

Tom has learned to put diapers on the same way I like to see diapers put on. I know this sounds funny, but I am very picky about the way I diaper Bethany. I don’t want the diaper tabs cutting into her legs. The diaper also needs to be pulled up high enough so it covers her tummy but doesn’t cut under her tummy. After watching me several times, Tom does it just the way I do it for her.

Page 212

Is there ever a time when prayer with your wife seems more desirable to you than sex? If not, your prayer life with her needs attention.

Part V: Enjoying a Resurrected Relationship

Page 250

Intimacy Through:

Women	Men
Touching, Sharing, Hugging & Communication	Sight/Vision

Page 252

We husbands have to at least be sexually attractive. One thing that always makes you sexually desirable to her is oneness.

Page 253

For example the point of a gun forcing her to have sex when she’s not in the mood with someone who isn’t sexually attractive. She must open her most intimate, private place to a man who not only has kept her from blossoming in marriage, but who has picked on her weaknesses and selfishly asserted his rights at every turn. This person sounds more like a prison guard than a husband, which means sex can fell disturbing close to being raped by a prison guard.

Page 261

Our love didn’t bring oneness, but our actions do. We submitted and met these terms of oneness. On my part, I made a rule that I couldn’t crawl into bed at night without first talking a seat in the “talking chair” in our master bedroom.

Conclusion

Page 290-291

But it wasn’t natural for the Ephesians to think in those terms at all because the word head carried an entirely different meaning to them. In Greco-Roman cultures, the head was not considered the governing centre of the body. Instead the head was considered the source of life for the body because the loss of the head always destroyed life. Therefore, in that culture, the definition of kephale was more accurately defined as the “source of life”. When Paul uses this word in relation to a husband’s headship, he is not saying that the husband is to be the governing center over his wife but that the husband is to be a physical, emotional, and spiritual source of life to his spouse, just as Jesus is toward to church.

Paul used the word kephale for a specific reason. If he had intended to simply define the status quo of marriage in those days and leave the husband in place as ruler and Chief Tiebreaker, he would have used the word heart instead and perhaps written, “For the husband in the heart of the wife”. That’s because in those days, the heart was seen at the governing center of the body, not the head.

Source: Every Man's Marriage: An Every Man's Guide to Winning the Heart of a Woman by Stephen Arterburn and Fred Stoeker (2010)

Marching Off the Map: Inspire Students to Navigate a Brand New World

Page 22

For	Our Role Must Change
Educators	As we teach a generation of students who don’t need adults to get information.
Parents	As we raise kids in a time of terrorism, economic recession, racial unrest, underemployment and ubiquitous technology
Coaches	As we train young athletes who have eight-second attention spans, and may arrive at practice with little resilience or grit.
Youth Workers	As we mentor students who may have few life skills of values because adults wither over-functioned or were absent.
Employers	As we onboard young employees who may have never had a read job before, and may ask when “spring break” will be.

Page 23

I must warn you, however, that becoming a pioneer is definitely risky. Pioneers are usually the ones with arrows in their back. (They’ve been shot by settlers who can’t understand their strange new tactics). There are no guarantees of success. But, I can certainly guarantee failure if you remain a settler. Settlers will be left in the dust as the young people we lead disconnect from us and find others they can follow to new places. Or, they will forge ahead with no mentors at all.

Page 27-29

The Post-Figurative Society	Adults determine life for children
The Co-Figurative Society	Together figure out life
The Pre-Figurative Society	Children figure out life by themselves

Page 36

·         What if I told you students today are not lazy after all, they’re just disengaged with the way adults teach them?

·         What if I told you our kids are more ready to address the world’s problems in a relevant way, but simple get stuck with our current methodology?

·         What if I told you teens actually want to do something that matters, but we’ve not only offered them virtual pastimes to occupy the days?

·         What if I told you students would be less anxious and stressed out if we get them more control of their day?

Page 51

The Latin root word for “educate” is “ducere” which means to “push out”. We have seen learning as something we do to students, not something they do for themselves. They key is – learning is not something done “to” someone. It is something they choose to do. We should not put students in a passive mode as we teach. We must be inspires of learning. We must help pull ambition out of them, not push information to them.

Page 95

Change: 3 Questions

1. Does this need a facelift? (It’s good, but it just needs an update)

2. Does this need an overhaul? (It’s purpose is good, but now it must be altered)

3. Dos this need a funeral? (It once was good, but no longer is relevant)

Page 115

What do we do when our best players shows up late to practice? When our team rules forbid facial hair and a guy shows up unshaven? What if he gets caught drinking? Do we hold him accountable? Or, do we change the rules to fit him; do we widen our home plate?”

Page 117

Metacognition (or thinking about thinking) is the secret to and the driving motivation behind all effective learning. The more they reflect on their learning, the more they learn. The better they engage in the subject and how to communicate it to others – the more they actually own it.

Page 126

Students grew up in an experimental world and now they are not looking for a “sage on the stage” with a lecture. I believe they are looking for a “guide on the stage” with an experience.

Page 171

Typically, people with autism are really good at structured tasks, following process, and attention to details.

Page 176-193

Two weather conditions today

1. Anxiety

2. Amorality

Anxiety

a) High materialistic pressure + Low quality relationships = Greater Stress Levels

b) Reasons of Anxiety rising: consumerism, materialism, decline of quality relationships, the impact of social media/cyber bullying

c) The PRICE we pay for social media

P – Personal Platform	This has fostered a narcissistic自恋culture of selfies.
R – Reactionary Opinions	They tend to care too much about what others think of them. This includes a preoccupation偏见with other’s judgment.
I – Instant Updates	This can make us impulsive with short attention spans.
C – Constant Information	This has caused angst焦虑and depression in users.
E – External Stimuli	This can lead to addictive lifestyles with the phone.

7 guide student in social media

1. Ask to meet and talk over the influence and hours consumed by social media

2. Ask to scroll through their posts with them

3. Interpret the tone and content of the posts and what it suggest about their character

4. Discuss how employers, coaches, instructors or mentors might view their sites

5. Ask them if they have ever noticed an attitude changing in themselves after reading or posting on social media?

6. Suggest they follow the rule: I will only post what I want my reputation to be ten years from now.

7. Balance screen time with face-to-face time.

Amorality

Our culture is marked by:

1. Resistance to judgment

2. Uncensored acceptance

3. Exchanging certainty for ambiguity

4. Embracing plurality

5. Stretching the boundaries of belief and behavior

Five sources of morality

1. Morals are determined by results or consequences (situational morality)

2. Morals are determined by pleasure or happiness.

3. Morals are determined by appearance and reputation.

4. Morals are determined by context or environment.

5. Morals are determined by affect or influence.

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	Historical Era	How People Differentiate Themselves
1	Agricultural Age	Stronger muscles
2	Industrial Age	Stronger machines
3	Information Age	Stronger minds
4	Intelligence Age	Stronger morals

Page 209

Whatever hours you spend in front of a screen, you must spend equal hours face to face with people, learning interpersonal skills, reading body language, facial cues and building EQ.

Page 211

Stop Asking…	Start Asking…
What do you want to major in?	What problem do you want to solve?
What do you want out of your life?	What is life asking of you?
How much money can you make?	What do you have to give?
How can you achieve something great?	How can you add value in this context?
What do you possess inside?	What are the needs or opportunities?
What will make you happy?	What are you being summoned to do?

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“I am giving you these comments because I have high expectations of you and I know you can reach them.”

The words themselves are not magic, but the thought behind them is profound. They communicate belief in the student, calling out the best in him or her. This requires tough love from us, with patience and tenacity to follow through. It’s effective, however, because our leadership stems from a deep seeded belief in our students.

Source:  Marching Off the Map: Inspire Students to Navigate a Brand New World by Tim Elmore (2017)

修复关系的十大步骤 The 10 Steps of Relationship Reconciliation

Chest Pain Sep 2018

Chest Pain Started

13/09/2018

- 2am: Chest pain at the right hand side same as my right hand (on and off feeling tightness) woke me up (prayed and back to sleep)

- 3am: Chest Pain became more severe to the extent that I had difficulties to brush my teeth. Because of this I dare not drive, thanks to my dad sending me to clinic and then Manipal Hospital

- 5am: Manipal gave injection (gastric related) to ease discomfort and some pills for allergic prevention purpose. ECG and blood test showed negative for heart problem

- 9am: Doctor suggested to do CT Scan. Pain persists with no as much pain as compared to early in the morning

- 10.30am took pill to slow heartbeat in preparation for CT Scan

- 12pm CT Scan for both heart and lung completed. Only mild chest pain when breath in strongly

- 4pm: Dr Navin explained that my heart is okay but found “something” quite big in my lung which another lung specialist would come and explain. No more pain even with deep breath.

- Did ECG, X-ray, CT Scan and Echo Cardiogram

- 9.30pm Explanation by Dr Balaji :

What is the mass?

可能是？	治疗程序	稍微解释
Thymoma/Thymus Gland 胸腺瘤/百里香腺	整粒拿出	Thymoma is the growth in thymus gland. Thymus gland is a gland needed for development of immune system.
Thyroid Gland 甲状腺	整粒拿出
Teratoma/畸胎瘤	整粒拿出	Abnormal growth of primitive cell
Lymphoma/淋巴瘤	化疗

Note: Doctor Balaji (Cardiothoracic Surgery) thinks it is more likely to be thymoma or teratoma. Lymphoma has enlarge of places which I don’t seem to have. 

How to know what is it?

It is by getting specimen to test out. 

2 ways can get the specimen. 

	Advantage	Disadvantage
Needle biopsy	Less invasive/less risky, stay hospital shorter (hours)	Smaller specimen/less accurate,
Full operation to remove the mass	- Bigger specimen/more accurate (better chance of diagnosis)	More invasive/more risky, stay hospital for 6 days

Scan Image

Scan Report

Prior to 13/09

07/09 - Caught rain and whole day on duty at Westports Golf event

08/09 - Started to have cold and cough

09/09 - Cough continued till 10/09

10/09 - Tug of war at YM Alpha Camp

11/09 - Carried heavy speaker returned to YM Hall

Chest Pain History (>10 times?)

1. Sep 2018 - admitted to Manipal

2. Jan 2018

3. Mar 2017 - admitted to Sri Kota

4. Dec 2015 - Muscle/Bone pain (5 days)

5. Apr 2009 - Bubble burst

6. Mar 2009

7. Nov 2008 - Pneumothorax (7 days)

"I could not remember this was my 4th of 5th time already in having this chest pain."

8. 2007 - Sri Kota got record my pneumothorax at the left side

9. 2005 - Sri Kota got record my pneumothorax at the left side

Vocabulary

Surgical ward 外科病房 (外科需要开刀)

Medical Ward 内科病房 (内科不需要开刀)

Pediatric Ward 儿科病房

Endoscopy 内镜检查 (An endoscopy is used in medicine to look inside the body, inserted directly into the organ)
Oncologist 肿瘤科医生

Interpretation Learning - Sep 2018 (2)

NO	ENGLISH	CHINESE
1	Assenting	同意
2	Notion	概念
3	Gross	重大
4	Enjoin / Instruct	叮嘱
5	Apparel	穿着
6	Nominal Christian	名义上的基督徒
7	Blotted Out	涂抹
8	Malign	恶毒
9	Vehemently	严词