Translation @ Setia Alam

主治医生 Attending physician
处于困境的/搁浅 stranded (migrants stranded at sea)
搁浅 gē qiǎn，词语，释意为 船只 进入水浅处，不能行驶

Crème Brûlée

Ingredients

250g Cream (whipping cream)

50g Sugar

1 Complete Egg + 1 Egg Yolk

Brown Sugar (Topping)

Vanilla Essence

Strawberry

Instructions

1. Boil Cream

2. Big Bowl : Complete Egg + 1 Egg Yolk + Sugar (creaming: whisk still but not with bubble)

3. Pour boil cream slowly and creaming at same the time (so that egg won't cook)

4. Put mold/bowl

5. Put mold/bowl in tray and tray with water

6. Oven 180 Celsius for 1 hour

7. Let it cool down and put into the bottom fridge

8. Just before serving burn the sugar on top of the Crème Brûlée

9. Add some strawberry on top and ready to be eaten!

Souce: Chef KL, 17 May 2015

THE BEST ADVICE I EVER GOT ON MARRIAGE

A successful marriage requires falling in love many times, always with the same person!

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Marriage counseling doesn’t work unless you have two yeses in response to the commitment question. If one or both partners are still trying to decide whether they want to work things out, you can’t be honest and open with each other for fear that will be the last straw. But if both individuals are committed to making the relationship work, a good counselor can really help you develop strategies and ways interact that will build up the relationship rather than tear it down.

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It is not an event or a one-time thing. It is not a fireworks felling or a field of flowers. It’s an action. It’s not just about choosing the right person; it’s about becoming the right person – the type of person who loves the way Christ loved us. It’s a daily commitment. But if it’s going to happen, love must be a verb.

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When I fail to respect my wife, when I demean her or am condescending toward her, when I mistreat her in any way, I am courting trouble with the heavenly Father who feels passionately about my spouse’s welfare.

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Viewing God as Father-in-Law has helped me understand the apostle Peter’s words: “Husbands, in the same way be considerate as you live with your wives, and treat them with respect as the weaker partner and as heirs with you of the gracious gift of life, so that nothing will hinder your prayers” (1 Peter 3:7).

If I don’t treat her with respect as God’s daughter with all the honor and privileges such a high standing involves, my prayer life will be hindered.

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God is aware of our spouse’s limitations – and he is just as eager for us to be kind and generous with them despite these faults as we are for our kids’ future spouses to be kind to them.

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Marriage becomes a central aspect of our worship. We learn to love imperfect people by serving them out of reverence for our perfect God, who loves us despite our brokenness. “We love because he first loved us” (1 John 4:19).

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Obviously, if only one person is performing small acts of kindness without reciprocation, the person being served can develop a sense of entitlement, and the person serving can become resentful. But when two people are consistent and intentional about looking out for each other in these simple ways, a powerful message is both sent and received: “I am a witness to your life. I see these routine things that are part of your daily grind, and I want to lighten your load in this small way to show you how much I love you.”

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Not taking yourself so seriously is the first step toward bringing laughter into your marriage. Being a responsible adult does not mean that you must remain serious at all times.

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You do not have to choose between life and a spouse. You can enjoy life with your spouse in the midst of the grind: “Enjoy life with your wife, whom you love, all the days of this meaningless life that God has given you under the sun – all your meaningless days. For this is your lot in life and in your toilsome labor under the sun” (Ecclesiastes 9:9).

Notice it does not say, “Endure life with your wife all your miserable days.” This is the only place in the Bible where it says, “Enjoy life with your wife.” You and I do not need to choose between the two, and one does not trump the other. You can have both because marriage enhances life.

Page 42

Seasons create a pace and rhythm that breathe hope into a marriage.

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Proverbs 17:22 says, “A cheerful heart is good medicine.” Your marriage needs several good doses of this medicine.

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The love I’m talking about experiencing that day was clear-eyed and grounded in companionship. We were allies. Comrades. Partners. Companions. There was no sunset spiking our mood, no piped-in background music to romanticize the scene. This was the reality of being together as husband and wife not only in love, but in friendship.

Page 50

Some years ago we wrote a book called The Love List. It’s designed to help couples do eight little things that make a big difference in their marriages. And of all the suggestions we note in this book, the chapter called “Find Something That Makes You Both Laugh” seems to resonate most with couples. And why shouldn’t it? After all, laughter is essential to being good friends. It bonds people like nothing else can. Sure, you feel sad when your friend is sad. You shoulder his pain. But you also share his funny bones.

Page 55

Here’s my best advice: Don’t ever go to seep mad at each other. You need to stay awake until you get it all settled.”

Page 58

One thing I’ve always told young couples is to not be afraid to ask each other questions. Even simple questions like “How are you doing?” will yield a lot of information if you listen to the answer. Often, if a spouse is feeling lonely or fearful or frustrated, he or she just needs a chance to tell you.

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Scripture tells us in 2 Corinthians 10:4 that God has given us weapons that can help us destroy negative thinking. However it’s up to us to stop and take or negative thoughts captive.

Page 72

Roll invites you to get in the habit of replacing negative thoughts and actions with positive thoughts and actions. Just as rolling over and over on the ground smothers flames that could lead to death, our marriage began coming back to life when we stopped responding as we had in the past, started taking captive of our negative thoughts toward each other, and, with God’s help, started choosing to assume that the other person was speaking and acting with positive intentions.

Page 73

God does want what is best for you. However, for you to experience His best will first require faith on your part to believe that He does and then corresponding actions in response to that faith.

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Even if the good you see in your spouse seems infinitesimally small right now, nurture it with your words as you would a tiny seedling in unyielding ground.

Page 80

No one trusts a person who constantly doles out disapproval and denigration. But if you have poured true Christian encouragement into your spouse, his or her faith in you grows. Your spouse sees that you genuinely care, that you do try to see the best in him or her.

When your husband is working on a series of projects around the house, commend him for the good work he’s done on one task before the moves on to the next. Say, for instance, “I love the way you pay attention to details. The primer you put on before that paint job made the finished product look so much nicer!”

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WOMEN BUILD TRUST BY CONNECTING

If I want my wife to trust me, I need to develop the ability to be intrigued (好奇的，被迷住了的) with her conversations.

MEN BUILD TRUST THROUGH SUCCESS

When I help Bill feel successful in conversation, in his career, in our romance, in our lovemaking, and in our decisions, his sense of well-being soars, and he is easy to live with. When I ignore this need and get too critical with him, he grows silent and uncooperative.

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We were told emphatically that marriage is a relationship of two imperfect people who need to forgive each other often. One couple even said, “Couples don’t fall out of love, They fall out of forgiveness.”

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Don’t ever threaten your spouse with divorce or separation.

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Avoiding the silent treatment. If I need some time to cool off, I do so with a full explanation. (“Honey, I’m gonna walk around the block a couple of times to clear my head and think more about what we’ve been arguing about. I’ll be back in the thirty minutes.”)

Steering clear of using the words always and never, and not saying demeaning things during fight, such as “You never say anything nice about me to your parents”. “You always act so immature when you’re around your high school buddies.” “I do everything for the kids because you’re self-centered, egotistical slob who never thinks of anyone but him/herself.” A better way to express the latter would be “Help me understand why you failed to pick Billy up at school today and what you plan to do so that it doesn’t happen again. I know you are about our children, but we both know we can’t be getting any more calls like this from the principal.”

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When I met with Wendel man-to-man, he very politely raked me over the coals and basically said, “Even though he was talking to Gina, it was all about you because the measure of a man’s ministry is how he treats his wife and his children. Men can con men all the time because we think it’s about externals and performance. Its not. The measure of a man’s ministry is the spiritual health of his wife and his children. “ That insight – that implicit advice – began to shape my life for the better.

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You have to realize that when God calls you. He has an equally important purpose for your spouse; His call to you is not to be independent of your spouse.

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“Lord, I confess my unfortiveness. Please take it away. Take away the bad attitude I have toward my husband.” That’s when I heard God speak clearly to my heart: “Your attitude is a choice you make.”

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I needed to choose to have faith that God could work in this situation – even though I could not fathom now.

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One our parents told us about at our wedding, now seventeen years ago: no matter what it feels like at that moment, your spouse cares about you and wants your best.

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Michael reacted to my (Amy) rather innocent dinner plans instead of responding. We want to make a clear distinction between reacting and responding. Reacting is when someone immediately lashes out or shuts down because their feelings have been hurt or they discover something they do not like. It is our natural “enslaved to sin” reaction. Responding, on the other hand, is when we stop and think before we speak or act. When we respond to a situation, we have actually put some thought into what we are about to say or do. Responding is taking our sin nature by the throat and telling it to get out of the way.

If you want to start responding instead of reacting to a conflict in your relationship, James 1:19-20 offers this guideline: “Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry, for man’s anger down not bring about the righteous life that God desires.” The absolute best thing a couple can do when conflict erupts is to stop whatever they are doing and take a time-out.

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If you open the spiral-bound calendar I keep on my desk, you’ll notice something odd in the box marking the first day of every month. Each box has a set of letters followed by a question mark: HWILTBMTM?

That’s what I do to remind myself a dozen times a year to take to heart the best advice I’ve received on marriage. It came in the form of a question that marriage experts Les and Leslie Parrott urge spouses to ask themselves: “How would I like to be married to me?”

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If you ask why we have been able to build a strong marriage on an initially unstable foundation, I would say this: the degree to which we’ve flourished as a couple is the degree to which we’ve cooperated with God and let Him change us as individuals in to new creations in Christ (2 Corinthians 5:17).

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Like a lot of spouses , Leslie and I avoided conflict for much of our marriage. But our unresolved hurts drove a wedge between us. Now we’ve learned to follow what we call the “stop, look and listen” approach. First, when conflict arises, we stop being defensive and honestly consider whether there’s a seed of truth in what the other person is saying.

Second, we prayerfully look for mutually acceptable solutions that will not only resolve this immediate quarrel but which might help us deal with this entire category of conflict. In other words, we try to look beyond the argument at hand and see how this disagreement might fit into a broader patter of conflict that we need to deal with on a deeper level.

Third, we listen. James 1:19 says, “Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry.” The key is to listen with what psychologists call “the third year”. This means becoming attentive to the emotions beneath our words.

Sometimes we’ll argue over a minor matter, and Leslie will say, “I hear some hurt in your voice. I can tell you’re upset by more that this little issue. What’s really bothering you?” That opens the door to a deeper level of relating. Instead of skating on the surface of our conflict, we can dig down to the roots of our discontent and talk about the subterranean emotions that are fueling our behaviour.

Source: THE BEST ADVICE I EVER GOT ON MARRIAGE: Transforming Insights from Respected Husbands & Wifes,  Compiled by Jim Daly (2012)

Toward a Postmodern Youth Movement

FEELING THE CHANGE!

Why do young people leave church?

- Even if some left for more “contemporary” churches, they tend to leave as well after a period of time

1) Our voice is not heard in the church

2) God is not relevant with our experience out there / God in the church is not meeting our needs

1) Youth Ministry in need of CPR

Judges 2:6-10

Losing Their Pulse…

- Unable to equip them with inner resilience

- Unable to keep them from falling into vice

- Unable to keep them from turning away

Running Placebo Factories!

- Feeding the feel good culture

- Raising a generation of cat-theologians

- Going over the edge in healing victims, not raising disciples in the midst of fiery reality

In a Cancerous Situation

- A spearing fear that God is no longer relevant

- A rebellion of wanting to overthrow religion

- A chasm (峡谷； 裂缝，断层) with a generation who doesn’t know how to anchor in God

2) Change Era, Rising Gaps

Google, “Y”, & Starbucks

- Knows a lot

- Questions a lot

- Desires holistic experience

“What Talking You? Generation (they’re hindered and find irrelevant)

- Our ‘glamorous’ Christianity

- Our ‘dry raisin’ Christianity

- Our ‘no-earthly-good’ Christianity (so heavenly minded but of no early use)

The Generational Gap Rising!!

- A generation with a 2^nd hand spirituality (listen from others)

- A generation of biblical illiterates

- A generation of “Why need the lordship of Christ”?

3) Colored Views of Living

Colored By Their History

- Family History

- Community History

- Personal History

- National History

Colored By Their Post Modern ERA

- Birthed out of disillusionment with a society that promised so much

- A reaction to modernity which alienated people

- Coming with an openness to mystery, spirituality

Their Colors of God

- A cultural view of who God is

- A patriarchal and distorted view of the Father

- A God who is removed from our experience

4) Rebuilding After the Storm

After The EYE of The Hurricane (2 winds patter: an era change; a generational change)

- Potential to cause havoc and destruction

- Post-dated with an unknown destination

- Seekers of truth which can be known and experienced and can transform lives

Re-Examining Our Ruins

- People hungering for safe places

- People having spiritual experiences

- People having stories and symbols of hope

New Renovations Needed!

Reflective Moments

1. Where are our STUCK PLACES in ministering to the young people?

2. What have we been FEEDING THEM with?

3. What practical ways can we RENOVATE our current ministry?

PILGRIMS, BACK TO THE FUTURE!

1) Our “Missionary” Identity

1 Thessalonians 1:7-10

“Refocusing” Our Identity

- See ourselves as missionaries (cross cultural)

- Seeing our mission (holistic)

- Building bridges for ministry (methodology)

Relevance Re-Visited

- Not merely changing the outer wrapping

- Releasing the aroma of hope

- Releasing the real Jesus in our ministry

EPIC Encounters with Jesus

- E – EXPERIENCE: Promo economy is experience economy

- P – PARTICIPATION: Promos want to be content providers

- I – IMAGE-INSPIRED: Story & metaphor at heart of their spirituality

- C – CONNECTIONS: Yearning to be connected

2) Building Bridges of Authenticity (Real, Genuine, Not Fake!)

Matthew 18:1-5

Telling It “As It Is”

- Coming to God in childlike freedom

- Coming to God in childlike poverty

- Coming to God in childlike dependence

Laying Down Bricks of Vulnerability

- Honest unpretending faith

- Unshamely wrestle faith

- Waiting for answer faith

Urging Honest Resolutions

- Resolving their identity (value, ownership, existence)

- Resolving their inheritance (embracing their lot)

- Resolving their integrity (inside-out, one person)

3) The Ancient-Future Approach (points us to ancient language, first century language)

Moving From Fanfare (大张旗鼓) to Vintage Christianity

- Simplicity in all ways (close proximity, not dramatic, inviting experience)

- Collision of stories (God’s story with ours)

- Embracing the EPIC methodology (both active-reflective, participating, observing, in-out)

Moving From Roadblocks to Roadsigns (receiving their confessions, confusions, conversions)

- Inviting them to journey (pilgrimage)

- Helping them trace God’s fingerprints

- Being connectors

Moving From Irrelevance to Incarnational

- Seeing the world from their viewing point

- Helping them discover Christ’s light in darkness

- Releasing them to tell the truth about their lives

4) Authentic Pilgrims, Authentic Journeys

Psalm 84:5-7

The Welcoming Space

- Gift of hospitality and coming alongside

Odysseying with Them (one youth @ a time)

- Students and surveyors of life (they are our teachers about their lives)

- Spiritual companions & coaches (discerners of Divine activity, becoming pointers)

- Signposts & mirrors (mirroring life to them, encouraging them to throw off weights that hold them down)

Recounting Our Pilgrimage

- Our stories – catalyst to understand experiences

- Our struggles – realities for their faith

- Our simplicity – testimony to keep them going

Reflective Moments

1. Where are the SPACES IN YOUR MINISTRY, for youth to CONFESS THEIR REALITIES; and to WRESTLE THROUGH THEIR FAITH?

2. Who are the SAFE PLACES your youth can go to in your church / your ministry?

3. What PRACTICAL CHANGES do we need to make to open doors for MORE AUTHENTICITY to flow?

Annette Arulrajah

Associate Regional Secretary

International Fellowship of Evangelical Students

East Asia

Source: By Annette Arulrajah organized by Ministries for Asia Pacific (MAP) on 9^th  May 2015

Trip to Cambodia (27th April – 4th May 2015)

Day 1 (Phnom Penh)

Sharing by Pastor HP

·         The one must thing for Singapore Church Camp is to have durian. Up to a certain extent durian can be a way for evangelism

·         The cultural/background understanding:

Karma VS Precious Life	Life & Death is fate/does not really matter VS every single life is precious in God’s eyes
Cambodians are kind-hearted in nature 天真	You don’t need to be worried whether somebody is trying to con you
Cambodians have lots of past baggage especially the war/genocide baggage	It is not easy for them to understand the love of parents

·         Cambodians have a strong superior perspective towards foreigners and therefore viewing themselves as inferior.

·         The view at Olympic Stadium was an eye-opening one. They were variety of activities: football, volleyball, jogging, shot put铅球 kind of game, and aerobics. Aerobics was the very special one because they were more than 7 different groups of people (each with tens of people) dancing/exercising following the instructor with music. People are from both male and female and comprise of different age groups. Perhaps sports + music evangelism?

Day 2 (Phnom Penh)

Location: The Killing Fields  (The Choeung Ek Genocidal Center)

Testimony by a survivor:

“My mission was to revenge. All my mother wanted was to see me safe and happy. She had even forgiven the guy who killed my sister 30 years ago.

I see my mother everywhere. I see my sister everywhere. I see the whole country as my family.

When I go out to meet a woman who lost her child, I treat her like my mother. When I see a woman who lost her child and is poor and who lost her brother and sister, I treat them as my sister. They become like my whole family.

I see myself like a broken glass and only myself can find the broken pieces and put it back together in a personal way. Everyone has different means to put their pieces together. I do this on my own and this is the only way.

Genocide to be prevented is so important because it will destroy the strength of humanity and will destroy the family not just physically but also emotionally.

Reconciliation is not about talking to each other. It’s the responsibility and obligation of each and every victim to put all these pieces together.”

Day 3 (Phnom Penh)

Location: Toul Sleng Genocidal Museum

My thought: A school can be a place educating the next generation and it can also be a place of destroying the whole nation.

20^th Century Catastrophes (Source: Wikipedia):

Day 4 (Siem Reap)

Travelled by Mekong Express from Phnom Penh to Siem Reap

Departure : 7.30am

Arrival      : 2.30pm

7 HOURS!!!

Day 5 (Siem Reap)

Location: Temple Tour (Angkor Wat)

Day 6 (Siem Reap)

Location: The Silk Farm
We cycled for 30km under the hot sun (36° Celsius)

Observation on the family during dinner

- Contented with life where wife lying down after taking order and husband lying down after cooking, son & daughter having dinner with a bowl of fried rice each and as well as a bowl of soup.

Day 7 (Siem Reap)

Location: BOL Church

The special boy

We visited the BOL Church in Siem Reap. After greetings with one another we sung praise and worship songs in Khmer. Although I don’t understand the language but some of the songs were actually the English/Chinese worship songs we sing in Malaysia.

Suddenly a boy came in from behind and I noticed that he was different the others. He was having a smiling face expression and greeted to people whom he approached. His clothing was not clean, hands with paintings and legs were full of dirt as well. He was not able to walk and sit properly because he has feet problem. During the service, he walked around several times to the front and back. Sometimes he shook hands with others, put the hand of another person around his arms and delighted in laying his head on others.

As we were in the midst of singing the worship songs, my heart was hoping that this ‘special’ boy would not come near to me because I simply didn’t know how to handle and didn’t want to handle at all. It was really a struggle within because on one hand I was worshiping the Lord and on the other hand I knew that God loves this boy just the same as other brothers and sisters. How could I worship Him with my mouth and at the same time deep down in my heart I treated the boy with different perception?

The fact is that the boy came to me and seated beside me several times. I think God was teaching me to love him with His compassionate heart. The boy was taking initiative to not only sit beside me, shake hands with me, touch me, put his head on my shoulders, hug me and etc. Inside me, I was rebuking myself how can I ignore this boy when I am called the disciple of Christ? God humbles me and I started to respond to the boy by pressing his hand with mine, looking at him and touching his fingers. To my surprise I even prayed silently that God will heal his little finger which cannot be straightened. I had the urge to wash his hands after the service and thank God he gave me the courage to do so by cleaning the painting stains on his hands.

What is the meaning of obeying Christ? Do I selectively obey Him or in full obedience I follow Him? It is not easy yet I pray that God will help me to obey Him completely.

Sharing by G&B

·         A blank piece of paper and let God do the drawing 

·         Calling to be His people and calling to be obedient

The Korean Dinner

Asking a new Christian about the challenges that she faced:

“I prayed”

“I am prepared”

“If asked, I will say that I am a Christian but I don’t know what will happen after that.”

The salvation of Jesus is so real in her life. Although her rich and powerful uncle warned her that discontinuation of relationship will take place if she embraces her faith, yet she is prepared to admit that she is a Christian.

After that, I think the missionary suggested wisely on the fact that to be silent is more effective in such circumstance. Just be silent. Because your action speaks louder than your words. Jesus also be silent in certain circumstances.

Another missionary amazed at the work of God saying that “we don’t know how towards the problems of the people but we just pray and God will show the way to the person”.

Expenses of our Cambodia Trip

Travelled by Air Asia
a) From KLIA2 to Phnom Penh (27th April, Departure: 6.45am, Arrival: 8.35am)

b) From Siem Reap to KLIA2 (04th May, Departure: 9.35am, Arrival: 11.35am)