Learning at GCYC: Prayer

Source: General Conference Youth Conference 2017

Interpretation Learning - June 2017 (2)

NO	ENGLISH	CHINESE
1	Chapel	小教堂
2	Apostasy	叛教
3	Counterfeit	伪造
4	Sharia law or Islamic law	伊斯蘭教法
5	Prevenient Grace	预设恩典
6	Secular	非宗教(性)的
7	Emissary	使者/密使
8	Narcissistic	自恋
9	Significance	意义
10	Infiltration	渗入；【医学】浸润
11	Know personally	亲自认识
12	Hold accountable	问责伙伴 （追究责任）
13	Primacy	首位
14	Have a hold over	把柄
15	Irrevocable	撤销
16	Bipolar	双极
17	Trillion 1,000,000,000,000	兆
18	Chap	小伙子
19	Touchdown	持球触地
20	Indifferent You're too indifferent to the opinion of others.	漠不关心的，冷淡的 你太不重视别人的意见。
21	Effectively	实际上
22	Mural	壁画
22	Disinformation	不真诚的，无诚意的，虚伪的

Interpretation Learning - June 2017

NO	ENGLISH	CHINESE
1	Church fathers	教父們
2	Constantine	君士旦丁
3	Christendom	羅馬教廷
4	Cardinal bishops	樞機主教
5	Indulgence	贖罪券(quàn)
6	Penance	補贖制度
7	Purgatory	煉獄
8	（1）Baptism （2）Penance （3）Eucharist （4）Confirmation （5）Anointing the sick （6）Holy order （7）Matrimony	天主教所強調的得救恩的七大聖禮: （1）聖洗（Baptism） （2）懺悔（Penance） （3）聖體（Eucharist） （4）堅振（Confirmation） （5）傅油（Anointing the sick） （6）聖秩（Holy order） （7）婚姻（Matrimony）

The Secret things of God

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Dealing with negative emotions leads to happy ones

Ecclesiastes 7:3

Sorrow is better than laughter,

Because a sad face is good for the heart.

It is a paradox, but sometimes to feel better, we have to feel worse.

My first job in the field of psychology was as a psychiatric aide in a psychiatric hospital. I took a year off between college and graduate school to make sure of my calling and that this was what I wanted to do for the rest of my life. It was invaluable experience. But I have to admit, in the beginning something surprised me.

I kind of thought that psychologists and psychiatrists were supposed to make depressed people feel better. So it made sense to me that that’s what they would do in a hospital. But what I found was the opposite. It seemed that they tried to make them feel worse! In the group sessions, they would get people to talk about their hurts, their pain, their losses, the trauma of the divorce they just went though, the sadness of past abuse and trauma, their abandonments, anger, bitterness, and the like. Groups were not “Happy talk” at all. They were the opposite – a lot of talk about a lot of pain and misery.

But I learned something. The secret that God revealed through Solomon in the verse above is true: a sad face is good for the heart.

It’s true that sometimes we have to feel worse before we can feel better. We have to face the pain we are not dealing with in order to get past a depression or an addition of whatever it is we are suffering with. Just waiting for the pain to go away is not enough. It may take a little surgery.

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Drain the Wound

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Suffering can be good, if it’s the right kind

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Like attracts like

There are character dynamics that explain attraction and how we are drawn to certain kind of people and not others. Let’s take codependents, for example. It is part of their makeup to need someone to fix, to repair, to make better. They are rescuers. Now think about his. What do rescuers need?

Exactly. A person to rescue. And what kind of people needs recuing? Responsible people? No. Responsible people take care of themselves. The kind who need rescuing are those who are not taking responsibility and ownership of their own lives and are a mess. So codependent people will always have irresponsible people or addicts in their lives until they realize that their codependency is what makes those relationships exist and necessitates their having problem people in their lives.

Likewise, on the other side of the equation, if people are not taking responsibility for themselves, what kind of people do they need? Rescuers. Someone to take care of them. Voila! There’s your match. They find each other. In some sort of unconscious way, they have the ability to sense each other, and the match is made, even across a crowded room. They hear fireworks when they meet. They just like each other. If feels right or familiar. They have no idea what is driving that attractions, but they just know that if feels good in the beginning. It’s after the dynamics begin to kick in that it all unfolds.

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It’s about you

So here is the way to unlock this secret: take responsibility for the fact that you are drawn to dysfunctional people in friendship, romance, business, or spiritual community…there is a reason.

It is about you, not them. Find out why you are attracted to them.

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Listen and validate before all else

From there, we had really helpful discussion as he began to see something: finding the other person’s heart is more important than getting that person to see that you are right.

It did not matter if he thought he was being loving. She did not feel loved. If he could hear that, he then could use that same effort and care to do something that would make her feel loved. But until he could listen and not try to convince, that was not going to happen.

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The beginning

The beginning focus is not just to “get our point across”, but to make sure that the other people get a chance to get theirs across as well. Then you have connected to the heart. Once you do that, problems can be solved.

And after you take the beginning stance of seeking to understand, the next step is to make sure that they know you understand. Remember this rule : You have not understood someone when you understand them. You have understood them only when they understand you understand.

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Sovereign

What does sovereignty means? As I eventually learned, sovereign means “ultimate and supreme power”. In the Bible it is sometimes translated “Most High”. It means that in your life there is no evil force, no person, no chance, no randomness, no anything that is higher than God – for He is the MOST high. So no matter what happens that is out of your control, He is still in control.

Source: The Secret things of God: Unlocking the Treasures Reserved for You by Dr Henry Cloud (2007)

Courtship Do/Don't & Value

1. What did you do or not do to prepare yourself for this courtship?

i) Do                       : Build godly character   

   Not Do               : Build ungodly character

ii) Bible verse

Therefore, I urge you, brothers and sisters, in view of God’s mercy, to offer your bodies as a living sacrifice, holy and pleasing to God—this is your true and proper worship. Do not conform to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Then you will be able to test and approve what God’s will is—his good, pleasing and perfect will. (Romans 12:1-2)

iii) Seasons of life

High School – College/Uni - Working

Single – Courtship – Marriage

Each season is a gift from God

iv) Season of Singlehood

·         Cultivate healthy habits: Bible Reading, Praying, Exercise and etc

·         To serve: To experience God / find the purpose of life / discover the gifts from God

·         To flee from temptation:

2. What are your values as a believer in regards to relationship?

·         To serve my partner with holiness and sincerity

o   Serve implies servanthood leadership

o   Holiness implies purity

o   Sincerity implies genuineness